Updated: Jan 23, 2022
Emotional intelligence can be broken down into five main categories.
1. Self awareness, including emotional awareness and self confidence.
Self awareness, as it applies to emotional intelligence, is in part the ability to look at yourself through the eyes of someone else and recognize how you must appear to them and what emotions you are likely expressing that they are picking up
2.Self regulation, or the ability to control one's emotional release.
Self regulation is the term for emotional management coping skills which can help us gain control of feeling-based behaviors and actions that have gone out of control. For example, if you find yourself to be experiencing an extreme emotion, you can use techniques such as reframing the thoughts in a more positive light, taking a break to head out for a walk and compose yourself, or using mindful breathing to help bring your nervous system out of this state of high emotional arousal
3.Motivation, or the driving force behind our choice to act and behave as we do. Motivation as it relates to emotional intelligence has to do with a constant striving toward achievements or a constant desire to improve. It's also about commitment and the ability to set plans into place and let ourselves be depended upon by other people within our social circle. Initiative and optimism are two more ingredients that shape our motivation levels. Initiative is the incentive that propels us forward in our goals.
4. Empathy, or the ability to connect with other people's emotions in a way that increases mutual understanding and acceptance.
Empathy has to do with recognizing and acknowledging the emotions and thoughts of other people. Empathy helps us feel connected to others so that we have the desire to work together with them to reach a compromise, set and achieve mutual goals, or negotiate on differences so that each person gets something they desire out of a situation.
5. Social skills, or the ability to interact and engage with other people in a positive way.
Emotionally intelligent individuals rise to the forefront in their gift for bringing about needed change, and may become an influential leader within their social sphere. In addition, the ability to mange conflict or know how to listen, cooperate, compromise, negotiate and resolve disagreements become tantamount to personal success.