"You're toxic" is the new term being used. Have you ever heard this term and wondered what it meant? Irwin’s definition of toxic describes a person that has qualities such as being abusive, unsupportive, or unhealthy emotionally — someone who basically brings you down more than up. “You may begin to feel dependent on him or her for their opinion, doubting your own,” she says. Having a toxic person in your life will not benefit you in any way . Sometimes you may feel the need to help them but sometimes you have to allow toxic people to learn on their own or they will bring you down with them. One thing you can guarantee from a toxic person is drama. Chaos seems to surround them because they're always arguing with someone and causing problems, or because unbelievable things keep happening to them. "Drama is a very big role played when we talk about toxic friends ``A toxic friend tends to be someone who sucks us in either by being very amazing, or by being this sad creature that needs our help."
Whatever their story, you can guarantee you'll hear about it, or worse, get dragged into it. Another form of toxicity is in a relationship. The indicators of a toxic relationship are much more subtle. It could be persistent unhappiness, Manipulation, controlling or constant complaining of the littlest things. If a relationship stops bringing joy, and instead consistently makes you feel sad, angry, or anxious it may be toxic. Toxic people feel an unconscious need to bring others down to boost their own feelings of self-worth. They will always find a way to bring others down . This could be intentional or unintentional. I know you may be thinking I have bad days where I’m not the nicest person does that make me toxic? Well the simple answer is no , we all have bad days it makes us human although if it is an everyday thing , then maybe you should take a look at yourself. Here are some ways you can keep yourself from being toxic.
1. Smile To Bring In The Good Vibes.
2. Maintain Some Kind Of Gratitude Practice.
3. Stay Away From Negative Conversations.
4. Slow Down And Practice Self-Care.
5. Make It A Point to be Kind To Someone Each Day.
6. Laugh At Yourself (And Your Mistakes)
Now I know you’re thinking how can I prevent myself from dealing with toxic people. I understand that some people that are toxic can also be family members or close friends . Let me help.
Here are some ways to avoid toxic people:
1. Avoid playing into their reality.
2. Don't get drawn in.
3. Pay attention to how they make you feel.
4. Talk to them about their behavior.
5. Put yourself first.
6. Offer compassion, but don't try to fix them.
7. Say no (and walk away)
8. Remember, you aren't at fault.
Are you thinking toxic people can change ? Well Toxic people can change, but it's highly unlikely. What is certain is that nothing anyone else does can change them. It is likely there will be broken people, broken hearts and broken relationships around them – but the fault of it will always be placed at the hand of someone else.